Tuesday, March 24, 2009

I Want My Daughter and Husband to Love ME More, NOT More of ME!!


If I had a dollar for every weight loss program I have stopped and started, I would be pretty wealthy.


If I had a dollar for every time I asked myself, "When are you going to start eating healthy and get rid of this weight?" - I would be able to afford a personal trainer and cook on a regular basis.


I started this blog to share my trials and tribulations with you as a mom and wife and as to be honest, weight is a large (ok, no laughing!) part of who I am and something clicked in me the last few weeks that I really need to start dealing with my weight and start getting healthy. While this is not going to be a weight loss blog, I am going to use this as a venue to both get support and hold myself accountable.


What is the big impetus this time that is motivating me ? Come on, for those of you who battle with weight, you know there is always a reason and/or event that springs you into action. . .and the key is to hope that while that event/reason may come and go, the motivation to get healthy says with you. . .before I get into that, let's look at my past motivations.


I remember starting diets as early as high school - I was on Weight Watchers (all the way back when they had "exchanges", not points and the only fruit you could eat for like the first week was apples, oranges & grapefruits - anyone remember that?) and I believe my mother even signed me up for Diet Center too. . .I am sure this is an exaggeration, but I remember that diet required me to weigh-in every day (I used to take my earrings off for fear they would add an ounce!) and I don't remember being allowed anything to eat other than like Wasa Crackers and a piece of fruit here and there. I don't remember having any motivation for them - I think I was just put on them. Now, I was not thin in high school, but I was definitely not obese. I have a warped memory of how much I had to lose, but it certainly wasn't a large amount.


Fast forward years and lots of pounds later to my junior year in college. I had wanted to go to Spain for the following summer or fall as an exchange student. I vividly remember my parents bribe - if you lose weight, you can go to Spain. So, they signed me up for my first of three times with Nutrisystem. I was ultimately pretty successful and lost quite a bit of weight. I actually just dug up some pictures from college and there were quite a few of me taken during that time and I was even bordering on a weight that someone could call thin. . .or certainly normal!! I'm not sure if I ever reached my goal weight or whatever happened to Spain and why I didn't go, but I can tell you that over the next year or two I had gained all my weight back that I lost.


While in law school, I joined Weight Watchers a few times and even took a stab again at Nutrisystem. ..other than successfully giving my money and time to these programs, I wasn't too successful at them. I lost a little bit here and there, but nothing substantial and whatever I lost always came back.


While I played around with trying to go on a diet before my wedding, I didn't. . .but that is okay, I still felt like a beautiful princess and loved every minute of being in my wedding dress.


Now after my wedding, my mother suggested I go on Phen Fen (back in 1995 or 1996) and boy - that was like gold to me!! Those drugs were the best invention on the planet. Without much effort at all, the weight melted off of me and I thought I had finally licked my food problem. Well, I did, until they took my drugs off the market.. .how could they??? In truth, those drugs did exactly what they were supposed to do - curb my appetite (the upper) and mentally made not care about food and do the mental gymnastics that I always do (should I eat that? should I not? should I make a better choice?) - but they didn't teach me to address the problem when I was off the drug.


So, the drug was taken away from me cold turkey and I ate my way through the next few years. I did try some other weight loss drugs, but nothing ever had the success rate that Phen Fen had for me.


Jump forward a few years later while I am trying to get pregnant. After a few years of trying, we went to a fertility specialist and while I didn't want any of us to be "the broken one" - I think I had hoped it was my husband because that was an easier fix. Well, it was me who was broken, not him. In addition to producing very very very few eggs and follicles during ovulation (some months I didn't even ovulate), it was discovered after a number of tests and a round of Super Clomid that I had Type 2 Diabetes. The plan was to wait until the Diabetes was under control before we continued with fertility treatment because having a baby with Diabetes can put you into a high risk category.


Well, guess what? I was already pregnant! We found out about a week later. .. and immediately I was put on insulin and transferred to a high risk ob and I had to test my blood 6 times a day. And guess what? I was the healthiest pregnant person around - I lost quite a bit of weight (the insulin helped tremendously with regulating my blood sugar and cravings, etc) and once again, while I was upset I had diabetes, I was happy to have found a possible reason for my weight challenges.


Thankfully my pregnancy was easy and wonderful and my daughter was born healthy with no blood sugar issues. Three months after my pregnancy, I was still pumping (my daughter never latched on, so I pumped for the first 3 - 4 months) and on insulin and losing more weight and happy as could be. Then. . .they took my insulin away. Apparently one cannot be on insulin long term when they no longer have diabetes.


Yep - go figure -when I went back to my endocrinologist, my blood sugar was no longer in the diabetic range (and hasn't been again in the last 6.5 years, despite numerous tests and eating like crap). So, once the scare of diabetes and my insulin was taken away, I headed again down the path of eating, eating and more eating.


So, over the last few years I have joined and dropped out of Weight Watchers a few times and last January I even joined Nutrisystem for the 3rd time. I did lose almost 30 pounds - but once the Jewish Holiday Passover hit (one of my fave holidays!), I fell off the diet and was never able to get motivated to get back on. . ..


So, you ask, why am I motivated now? Yes, there is the obvious reason of wanting to be healthy and living a long time for my daughter and husband. . .but come on, that reason is always there in one form or another for most of us and sadly, often that just isn't enough.


Here is my motivation - simple, yet pretty powerful.


My daughter is not embarrassed by having a Mommy who is fat (forget being politically correct and saying overweight - let's just call it what it is. . .). . .yet. And I say yet, because we all know , it will come. Her mommy will be the one wearing a skirt on the bottom of her bathing suit - whether its trendy that year or not. Her mother will be the one with her tushy always hanging over the kids' seats in the classroom. I could go on and on. . .


Last week it was pretty hot in Phoenix for March - it was in the 90s. Allie had on an adorable tank top and skirt. I was in a short-sleeved t-shirt and capris. Allie asked me why I wasn't in a tank top because it was so hot out. I fumphered some answer and she said I would be so much cooler if I wore a tank top and she wanted to go pick one out for me in my closet. I told her I didn't have any tank tops -she proceeded to dig a couple of out my drawers (I'm not sure why they are even there, because I can guarantee you with arms like mine, I don't wear them!) and told me to try it on. I tried to protest as much as I could (too old, too small, too big, etc) - finally I put it on. Allie looked at me with a really funny look and said to take it off, it looked horrible.


OMG - I am wondering and thinking about all the things going through her head about how she sees me in this tank top. Then I see her mouth opening to say more. . .god, I didn't want to hear it. What more than telling me it looked horrible did she have to say.


"Mommy", Allie says, "you should throw that away, there is a big stain on the front and that is a really yucky orange color and it just looks horrible. But here, try this purple one on, I bet that will be pretty on you. . ."


So, bottom line. I want to lose weight and hopefully look okay in a tank top BEFORE Allie knows I don't look okay in a tank top and a person with my arms should never consider wearing a tank top!


So, intermingled with my posts, I am sure I’ll be posting an update about the program and my personal weight loss successes and disappointments each week after my Weight Watchers meeting.


Oh yeah, and who is that in the picture with me? None other than Adam Pascal from Rent. Rent is my all time favorite musical (I have seen the musical 3 times and the movie countless times- I am one of those annoying people to sit next to while watching Rent because I sing/mouth all the words. . .yes, for the entire show!) and one of the most amazing gifts my hubby gave me for my 40th birthday was 3rd row tickets to Rent which we just went to last Friday. And to make the experience even more fabulous, a friend of a friend invited me to the Cast Party and I can tell you, I felt like Allie going to Disneyland for the first time - to get to meet Adam Pascal (who was just sooooo kind and warm and chatty. . . not to mention, rather hot!) and Anthony Rapp (I was always taught if you don't have something nice to say, don't say it. . .) was nothing less than FABULOUS!! I mean I got to share plates of pita bread and hummus with them. . .way cool as far as I am concerned!!


In any event, I promised myself there was not way I am going to be that large when I meet someone so famous and so hot again. . .


Hopefully this time is different and it lasts for more than a minute. . .care to join me on my journey?



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11 comments:

Sassy Pink Boutique said...

I'm right there with ya babe! I so understand the tank top fiasco, I want to wear them and did just a few years ago- but my arms --ugh! I think I might want to get in on this...but I love to eat! AUGH!

Kelly D said...

I'll be here to hold you accountable. It's taken me over 4 1/2 years to loose the weight from my pregnancy. About 1 year ago I started taking belly dance classes - all of a sudden I felt sexy again (not because I was sexy) and decided I wanted to really focus on looking okay in my clothes. It's a process, a life long process.

I'm cheering for you.

Mommy Meryl said...

Amy. . .I hear you on the loving to eat!! But I really am wanting to wear a tank top. . .hopefully this time wearing a tank top will taste better to me than eating like crap!

Kelly - thank for your support girlfriend!! :-)

My Vision said...

I love Rent too! I'm jealous you went!
Good luck on your diet. It's gotta be difficult. If I didn't have celiac disease and didn't get physically ill when I eat anything with flour I'm sure I'd be on a diet every week.

Dirty Mouth Mama said...

Wow.

Great post, keeps things in perspective, but one thing about arms and tank tops. No one seems to look good in them. Ha.

The best advice I could give to anyone considering a change in habit is the point of power is always in the present moment. You don't have to worry about the wedding two months from now, you just have make a good decision, now, and now, and now. and now. Each moment. You will do it. Keep your choices positive and I look forward to updates along the way.

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Wendy said...

Your post has said a lot of things that I have thought but wasn't strong enough to say outloud. I've recently "recommitted" myself as well. Good luck to you - you can do it!

Gena said...

Well, I wish you the best of luck on your diet. There's not a mommy out there who can't identify with your post.

Jen said...

Lots of luck! Keep positive :O)

Kimberly Kihega said...

I feel for you hunny! I've been down that road before after I had my first child. I started working out and eating better and it worked for me. Of course I was young though, so that probably helped. I struggled with being the chubby girl throughout school, but now I'm in my ideal weight frame. I'm rooting for you, YOU CAN DO IT!

Melanie said...

i wish you all the best.
i'm also working on losing some weight. it's hard. i'm not a sports girl at all. so i try to eat healthy and train just as often as i really want to. it should make fun. otherwise i just get depressed by doing something that i don't like. and often i just dance to music totally wild. do that for 30 minutes and it will work - and is so much fun.

again, all the best.
blessings and greetings from austria.
melanie xxx

bamamommy said...

Your story sounds so familiar. I too have been overweight for a large portion of my life, though when I look back at pictures I think "I didn't look that bad!" and it makes me angry that I thought I was so big. I have always been told how pretty I was, and at times believe it. But I always know that I could be prettier if I was thinner. My husband loves me, my family loves me and my kids love me. I know that beyond a shadow of a doubt, and my kids have never even seemed to notice that I am obese, but I have the exact same fears that you do.
After watching a couple of episodes of "Intervention" tonight while I could not sleep, I began to think about my own addiction-food. I LOVE TO EAT!! My baby girl has a cough right now and woke up a little while ago, so I was holding her and just looking at my sweet perfect precious angel baby, and realized that I want to give myself every possible day and moment that I can with her, my son, my husband and my family. I told my baby girl, "I love you more than I love food." and I mean it!!!! I have to get healthy. I want to be around for a long long time, and I want to enjoy that long long time that I ha e ahead of me.
I found your blog and it sounds so much like my story. I hope things are going well with you. What are you doing to lose the weight??? I do not have a plan yet, but I KNOW that I have to do something/anything!!